[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/www.elsve.cz\/srovnavani-se-s-ex-partnerem-je-to-soutez\/#Article","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/www.elsve.cz\/srovnavani-se-s-ex-partnerem-je-to-soutez\/","headline":"Srovn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed se s ex-partnerem: je to sout\u011b\u017e?","name":"Srovn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed se s ex-partnerem: je to sout\u011b\u017e?","description":"Vztah, rozchod a jste zase sami. Pak po ur\u010dit\u00e9 dob\u011b potk\u00e1te sv\u00e9ho b\u00fdval\u00e9ho partnera, nebo se o n\u011bm n\u011bco dozv\u00edte.…","datePublished":"2019-05-16","dateModified":"2023-05-07","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.elsve.cz\/author\/#Person","name":"","url":"https:\/\/www.elsve.cz\/author\/","identifier":1,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/0379e0c919e89f337c2f51ff1404922f8441b43281fb91f3719df99f70b9888f?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/0379e0c919e89f337c2f51ff1404922f8441b43281fb91f3719df99f70b9888f?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"elsve.cz","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"\/logo.png","url":"\/logo.png","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/www.elsve.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/img_a344642_w2902_t1558458951.jpg","url":"https:\/\/www.elsve.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/img_a344642_w2902_t1558458951.jpg","height":0,"width":0},"url":"https:\/\/www.elsve.cz\/srovnavani-se-s-ex-partnerem-je-to-soutez\/","about":["\u017divotn\u00ed styl"],"wordCount":646,"articleBody":"Vztah, rozchod a jste zase sami. Pak po ur\u010dit\u00e9 dob\u011b potk\u00e1te sv\u00e9ho b\u00fdval\u00e9ho partnera, nebo se o n\u011bm n\u011bco dozv\u00edte. Pokud \u017eijete ve stejn\u00e9m m\u011bst\u011b nebo se st\u00fdk\u00e1te se stejn\u00fdmi lidmi, je n\u011bco takov\u00e9ho t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 nevyhnuteln\u00e9. Jist\u011b to zn\u00e1te \u2013 doslechnete se, \u017ee v\u00e1\u0161 ex nejen \u017ee je nyn\u00ed \u0161\u0165astn\u011b zadan\u00fd, ale jeho nov\u00e1 p\u0159\u00edtelkyn\u011b v\u00e1m p\u0159ipad\u00e1 mnohem atraktivn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e vy (co\u017e zjist\u00edte po tom, co ji uvid\u00edte nebo si bleskov\u011b vyhled\u00e1te jej\u00ed profil na Facebooku), ale jev\u00ed se i daleko \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, zaj\u00edmav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed a z\u00e1bavn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Najednou i v\u00e1\u0161 b\u00fdval\u00fd s n\u00ed v\u00e1m p\u0159ipad\u00e1 jako lep\u0161\u00ed \u010dlov\u011bk a \u0159\u00edk\u00e1te si \u2013 pro\u010d tohle v\u0161echno nem\u011bl se mnou? Pro\u010d ne j\u00e1? A pro\u010d j\u00e1 nejsem tam, kde je on?
 
 
 
 V\u0161echny tyto pocity a ot\u00e1zky jsou naprosto p\u0159irozen\u00e9. \u010clov\u011bk m\u00e1 bohu\u017eel biologick\u00e9 tendence porovn\u00e1vat se s ostatn\u00edmi, tak tomu v\u017edy bylo, je i bude. D\u00e1 se to v\u0161ak odnau\u010dit \u2013 ale cesta k nez\u00e1vislosti na \u00fasp\u011bchu nebo kr\u00e1se ostatn\u00edch nen\u00ed jednoduch\u00e1. Jak jinak by toti\u017e \u010dlov\u011bk mohl dos\u00e1hnout n\u011b\u010deho, o co v\u00e1\u017en\u011b stoj\u00ed, bez toho, ani\u017e by m\u011bl t\u011bsn\u011b p\u0159ed sebou n\u011bjak\u00fd vzor nebo c\u00edl, kter\u00fd se sna\u017e\u00ed dostihnout? Nen\u00ed v\u0161ak p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 moudr\u00e9 volit tento c\u00edl takov\u00e9 povahy, kter\u00e1 nen\u00ed zrovna pozitivn\u00ed a n\u00e1sledovat kroky n\u011bkoho, komu n\u011bco ti\u0161e z\u00e1vid\u00edme. Daleko efektivn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed je inspirovat se n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo n\u00e1s motivuje kladn\u011b, je n\u00e1m sympatick\u00fd a l\u00edb\u00ed se n\u00e1m v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 d\u011bl\u00e1.
 
 
 Zp\u011bt ale k t\u00e9matu na\u0161ich ex a jejich \u00fasp\u011bch\u016f \u2013 pro\u010d je tak t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 se oprostit od toho, jak se jim vede bez n\u00e1s? Do jist\u00e9 m\u00edry je samoz\u0159ejm\u011b p\u0159irozen\u00e9, \u017ee n\u00e1s zaj\u00edm\u00e1 to, co d\u011bl\u00e1. Str\u00e1vili jsme s t\u00edm dan\u00fdm \u010dlov\u011bkem ur\u010ditou dobu (a\u0165 u\u017e se jedn\u00e1 o m\u011bs\u00edc nebo rok), a dali jsme mu kus sebe. Byl to n\u011bkdo, s k\u00fdm jsme sd\u00edleli sv\u00e9 radosti i bolesti, kter\u00fd znal n\u011bkter\u00e1 na\u0161e tajemstv\u00ed a na\u0161i intimitu. Znal n\u00e1s bez obalu, takov\u00e9, jac\u00ed jsme. A pak je po v\u0161em. Po vztahu zbyde jen pr\u00e1zdnota, kterou se p\u0159irozen\u011b sna\u017e\u00edme n\u011b\u010d\u00edm vyplnit. I kdy\u017e se tak ale stane, n\u011bkdy je zkr\u00e1tka t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 se oprostit od vlivu b\u00fdval\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00edtele a jeho bl\u00edzkosti.
 
 To, \u017ee n\u00e1m chyb\u00ed, se \u010dasto sna\u017e\u00edme vykompenzovat r\u016fzn\u00fdmi n\u00e1hra\u017ekami. Nap\u0159. si za\u010dneme urputn\u011b hledat jin\u00e9ho partnera, \u017eijeme nez\u00e1vazn\u011b, d\u011bl\u00e1me v\u011bci, jak\u00e9 jsme d\u0159\u00edve ned\u011blali a m\u00e1me pocit nez\u00e1vislosti. To v\u0161e b\u00fdv\u00e1 v\u011bt\u0161inou pouze kr\u00e1tkodobou v\u00fdpln\u00ed do doby, ne\u017e si najdeme nov\u00fd vztah. Bav\u00edme se a ne\u0159e\u0161\u00edme, co bylo \u2013 dokud nepotk\u00e1me na\u0161eho ex a nezjist\u00edme, kam se on posunul za tu dobu, co nen\u00ed s n\u00e1mi. To, \u017ee n\u00e1s popadne vztek a chceme mu dok\u00e1zat, \u017ee my jsme t\u00edm v\u00edt\u011bzem, a \u017ee se neut\u00e1p\u00edme v samot\u011b a bezv\u00fdsledn\u00e9m jedn\u00e1n\u00ed, je p\u0159irozen\u00e9. Nen\u00ed v\u0161ak p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 efektivn\u00ed up\u00ednat se k \u017eivotu n\u011bkoho, kdo ji\u017e do toho na\u0161eho nepat\u0159\u00ed. Jedin\u00e9 pozitivum, kter\u00e9 bychom si z toho v\u0161eho mohli vz\u00edt je snaha, nal\u00e9zt si v \u017eivot\u011b ten n\u00e1\u0161 vlastn\u00ed sm\u011br, bez ohledu na ten jeho. A j\u00edt tak\u00e9 d\u00e1l.
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